If you read my Goals for 2018 post at the start of the year then you’ll know that one of my main aims for the twelve months ahead was to be more content. Today I thought I’d share a little bit more on why this ‘resolution’ came about and the changes I’ve been attempting to put into place so far.
Towards the end of last year I knew that I was spending far too much time online and it was starting to get me down. The constant refreshing of my Twitter and Instagram feeds had almost become like second nature and it was a habit I desperately wanted to break. Spending so much of my time browsing social media, looking at other people’s lives instead of actually living my own meant that I was faced with a sense of constant comparison. I was constantly asking questions such as ‘why isn’t my life like that’, ‘why can’t we go on holiday there’, ‘why doesn’t my house look like that’ and I knew it was even starting to annoy those around me. The fact that I couldn’t with happy with what I did have and constantly felt the need to strive for something else, something more.
I’ve spoken before about the sense of FOMO that social media creates for me so in 2018 I was determined to spend more time living in the moment, and more specifically MY moment. I wanted to learn to be content with what my own life offered instead of feeling like it lacked in comparison. After all I have a pretty amazing and stable relationship, some lovely friends both old and new and a blog that I love creating content for and has brought me some pretty great opportunities over the past four years. It was time to start being a little more grateful for what I did have and to feel content with the choices I’ve made and the life that I’ve created for myself.
So what exactly have I been doing to tackle these feelings and kick start my journey to feeling more content? Well as you can no doubt probably guess, I’ve been trying to spend more time offline.
As a blogger I feel like striking the balance between spending enough time engaging online with your fellow creatives and actually being present IRL amongst your friends and family is a difficult one. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the madness of the online world and feel like you need to dedicate yourself to these social platforms 24/7 so people don’t go forgetting that you exist. Especially nowadays, if you want to actually grow your following it’s becoming increasingly important to be uploading to these platforms multiple times a day, pushing out regular content via your blog or YouTube channel and investing a significant amount of time engaging with other peoples content.
It begs the question, is there really enough time in a day to do all of this whilst still managing to do your own thang over here in the real world? That’s something that I’m still not so sure about but there’s some amazing gals here in the blogging world who seem to have it nailed, I’m looking at you Sophie and Chloe…
In terms of real actionable steps I’ve been making to help me on my journey to contentment there’s several things I’ve put in place which have made a difference so far. From turning my phone off an hour before bed to make more time for reading to embracing more offline activities like puzzles (yes I am 85 years old). Instead of spending all evening tapping away on my phone or laptop I’ve been trying to put these away and get stuck into some TV shows I’ve been meaning to watch for years, yes it still classes as screen time but a good series is one of the best ways to switch off after a busy day! Turning off my notifications has been a key one and is something I WILL keep banging on about as I think it’s one of the best changes you can make to help with your social media addictions.
So after almost two months can I say I’m feeling more content? Yes, maybe a little. I know it isn’t going to happen overnight and there’s a lot of things I need to work on changing but I’m going to keep on striving until I can say that I do truly feel content and no longer feel the need to constantly compare my life to others.