5 Things to do When You’re Not Feeling Like Yourself

Not feeling like yourselfWhether you’ve been through a breakup, suffered a loss or are simply going through a bit of a rough patch it can be extremely difficult to get on with your normal day-to-day when you’re not not quite feeling your usual self. 

If you’ve been keeping up to date with my most recent posts you might have seen that my Grandma passed away last month so it’s been a tricky time for me. To be honest I’ve struggling to process the loss and this has meant that I haven’t been feeling my usual self. I’ve obviously been a lot more emotional, over analyzing most things and have felt quite de-motivated and uninspired which is very unlike me. There’s a few things I’ve been doing to try and help me to get back on track that I thought I’d share with you today in case you happen to be in a similar situation, do let me know if you have any suggestions too!


Go easy of yourself

One of the main things I’ve been focusing on is to be a LOT less hard on myself in terms of productivity. There are certain things I obviously need to do on a daily basis; things like go to work, keep up with my freelance work, do some chores around the house etc. but anything that falls outside of this such as blogging, or going to the gym I’ve been giving myself the option to do. If I’ve felt up to writing a post or working out then great! But if I’ve wanted to stay in and get stuck into a new Netflix boxset then I haven’t been kicking myself about it. Everyone needs to take time out occasionally and if my head isn’t it the right place for these things at the moment then there’s no point trying to force it. I’m sure I’ll be back to my usual to-do list making self at some point soon!


Spend time with loved ones

Some days, as much as I’ve wanted to stay cocooned in my duvet I’ve really been making an effort to get out of the house and see other people. Sometimes all you really need is some of your best pals, a good natter and maybe a glass of wine or two (mines a cider plz) to have you feeling like yourself again. After all, those who know you best are surely the ones to make you feel most relaxed and comfortable in your own skin!


Treat yourself to some little luxuries

Now this one I like! And I’m not talking going out and treating myself to anything extravagant but instead little luxuries like cooking my favourite dinner, lighting a candle I’ve been saving for a special occasion, going out for spontaneous pub dates, making the most of that 20% discount code and placing an ASOS order. Sometimes you just need to be a little kinder to yourself and this month I’ve been trying to find as many of these little treats as possible!


Have some alone time

So in stark contrast to one of the previous points I’ve found that I’ve really craved some alone time over the past couple of weeks, it’s felt like a vital step to help me to recharge my batteries. Sometimes you really do just need to switch off, stick on your pyjamas and get re-acquainted with your YouTube subscription box. It can also be really difficult for those closest to you to see you going through a hard time and I know I’m definitely guilty of taking my emotions out on other people so alone time can be really crucial to help you re-evaluate and get some perspective.


Making plans

I’ve found that putting plans into your diary to look forward can also really help, I’ve got a trip to Barcelona with the girls as well as a Spa day coming up in the next month which are both super exciting and helping me to be a bit more positive. I’ve also signed up for the half marathon in eight weeks to help raise money for The Stroke Association so this gives me a real challenge to work towards whilst also feeling like I’m doing something to remember my Grandma. It’s taking a lot of focus to stay on track with my training schedule so its helping to give my weeks some real structure and something big to work towards!


I hope you’ve found these little tips useful and if you’re going through a hard time at the moment rest assured that you’re not the only one! Please do let me know if you have any other tips which you find helpful too!


  • Completely agree with all of these things.

    I’m sorry to hear you’re going through a hard time, I know how it feels to grieve for a loved one (I was 13 at the time, it does get easier but it changes things) – it’s completely normal to feel the way that you do, and just surround yourself with people who understand that too 🙂 it’s a bit of a cliche but time does help, so take as much as you need!

    Paige xx

    • Thanks so much for reading Paige and for taking the time to comment 🙂

      I really hope so!

      Jess x

  • Millie Bailey

    Love this post. I always find that when i’m going through a bit of a low stage, you really just need to prioritise your time to go with your mood. As you said sometimes duvet days are the answer, but then again sometimes wine with friends is the way to go. We all go through stages like this – and it’s great to read such an open post! Im so sorry to hear about your Grandma 🙁

    Millie xx

    • Yep that’s so true, I’m really trying to listen to how I feel at the moment and just go with it!

      Thanks so much for reading and your advice 🙂

      Jess x

  • seriously, hot chocolate and channing tatum film. my go to for when i’m feeling like shite!!

    sorry to hear you’ve had a rough time lately, loss is a horrible thing to deal with. making plans and keeping yourself busy and around good friends is a lifesaver to help deal with grief. barcelona will be a lovely way to relax and enjoy time with close friends. hope you have a lovely time, girl!

    katie xx lacoconoire.com

    • ps your blog is BEAUTIFUL. ♥ ♥

      • Yes! LOVE a Channing Tatum film, they always cheer me up too (or make me cry haha).

        Thanks so much for reading 🙂

        Jess x

  • Sorry to hear about your Grandma and that your feeling down. All these are great methods but I always love a pamper evening with a bath, candles and face masks. Have a great time in Barcelona and I would love to see a blog post as I want to visit for my birthday.


    • Love a pamper evening too, definitely due one!

      I’ll definitely be putting one together so keep an eye out 🙂

      Thanks so much for reading!

      Jess x

  • Yep- all of these! I particularly enjoy making future plans. It helps ease my mind! xx